I knew even before looking that the responses would be aggressive, insulting and attacking. Such responses probably come from a) people with little to no experience in a bad marriage, b) people who were the children of bad marriages, c) people who have been cheated on.

One of the things I learned from *my* bad marriage (and subsequently judged the more fit parent in the divorce and now a single father for going on 5 years now) that involved no actual cheating (but several accusations of it) is 1) it's complicated and 2) the only two people who know the full story are the spouses. I know enough to know I'm in no position to judge this author.

The entire reason "no fault" divorces came about was the recognition it can be almost impossible to truly untangle what happened and why, and that it's not really even necessary to try.