At the end of the day, everyone has a right to try to be happy. Marriages are obviously the sum of more factors than sex, but as you say, you cannot go back to way things were sexually before your husband’s accident. I wish you the best in navigating a path forward. I’ve read a couple of your pieces, haven’t seen any indication that he reads them, but hopefully he does. One thing that very much comes through is your desire to not hurt him while still being true to yourself.